You are Loved

We are very lucky, thanks to baby En..
Even though he is no longer in the care of Super nanny, En remains very close to nanny and family.

Nanny and family also miss En much and they will request for us to let En spend time with them for a day or half a day on some weekends. It works out pretty well for us, especially on days when our helper is on leave on Sunday and we have our hands full with En and xuan. Also, we get to spend quality time alone with Xuan without having to split our attention between the boys.

En enjoys going to the nanny's very much, and seems to view these days as a treat for him.
2 weeks ago, after a long time of not visiting the nanny, En finally had a day out with nanny and family. At the end of the day, when we went to fetch him, he was crying and kept asking us to go home, while he wanted to stay at nanny's house. He did not want to come home with us!

He was crying half the way home, and nanny was very worried..
She was worried that we will not dare to bring En to her place again, and she won't have a chance to see her "宝贝" again.
She also called later and asked us not to scold En, as she was worried that we will be angry with En for not wanting to come home.

We are quite amazed why she will think that way. I guessed she must have experience with insecure parents who either bar their kids who are close with the nanny from the nanny, or have seen parents scolding their kids for not wanting to go home from nanny's place.

And while I can understand that these actions may stem from insecurity on the part of parents, I cannot understand why parents should be jealous.

I am happy. Very happy and very blessed that En is so well loved.

The fact that nanny is willing to look after En even though we do not put him with nanny daily anymore, and that nanny refuses to take any form of token from us for taking care of En on some weekends says a lot about how much she genuinely loves my son.

Why should we feel threatened that my son loves his nanny and family , so much so that he does not want to come home? I am happy that he is well loved, and that he has fun with other people outside of the immediate family.

I feel blessed that En is showered with genuine love and care from nanny, her husband, and her 3 kids who all love and play very well with En. As parents, we should be confident and secure that our kids love us. I believe little kids are innocent and pure. In their world, loving the nanny does not mean that he loves us less.

We all have been kids ourselves. We have all indulged and we want that experience which is out of the norm for us; being at home with mummy and papa is normal. Nanny and family offers the out of the norm fun and experience. So if they are not prep well, of course kids will want to continue with these out of the norm interesting events as long as possible.

Hence, for the subsequent week, we again left En with Nanny. However, this time round, when Papa left him, Papa told En that Papa will fetch him at 8 o clock. True enough at 8 o clock we turned up to fetch him home and he did not to cry. He cried a while to signal his reluctance, but he then dutifully wore his shoes and walked all the way to our car, muttering at every step 'Dun cry dun cry'.

We were impressed, amazed ad touched. Despite his reluctance, En kept his promise to go home without crying even though it was obvious that he had a hard time tearing himself away from nanny. The next week, we did the same and this time round, En came home without even crying to signal his reluctance.

This is a collage that nanny's daughter made of En when they brought him out for dinner. I am grateful for all that nanny and family have done for En..
And I feel as parents, we should be confident that our kids do not love us less when they show love for others. And have faith that our kids will always love us, so long as we give them a reason to. And that is definitely not by being insecure, jealous or petty!