Recently I feel there has been a lot of attention in the media highlighting the broken families of victims – as if broken families is a direct/ indirect contributor to the fate of the victim (whether it is the NS boy/ the hot shorts girl who was murdered)..
I wonder about and I question the effect of a wholesome family on kids.. for sure, a lot of literature have already talked much about it..
In an age where divorce rate is climbing and it is a reality that it is harder to hold a marriage together than to let it fall apart, it seems very fatalistic to me when results are attributed merely to the status of the family.
You will think that if we have evolved so much – that the broken families and people will have evolved to cope with the broken family status and its effects on kids. Are all the psychologists and sociologists not having a field day trying to analyse this and coming up with solutions, if we already see divorce as a upward trend that will likely stay than to go away?
Hence, if there are coping mechanisms in place (definitely there must be! Divorce is not invented a decade ago!) then, I am saying there is something besides the status of broken family that may have impacted the kids more..
Is it the income, is it the vices of the parents, or is it simply the lack of attention?
If it is any of such parameters, then they are not automatically correlated to broken families, i.e. a kid can come from a full family where parents are of lower income, or are victims of vices such as excessive gambling or alcoholism or as simple as coming from a full but negligent family!
Hence, in this age where divorce is a reality that many have to cope with, I think it is very stigma-tic to continue attributing failures to status of the family. It is not fair, and it is not realistic.
And it is not helpful in helping the public see the REAL ROOT of the problem that may have resulted in the tragedy, which may turn out to be an even more prevalent trait/ situation! One day, I hope to see a change, and more insightful reporting. Please, to me, it seems really passé to attribute failures/ tragedies/ any weaknesses of kids to simply, and linearly, the cause of broken families.
Just because we are pro-family, should not make us BLIND to persevering, loving and capable single parents who strive to bring up their kids well and wholesomely.
If anything, these individual deserve more credit as it is much tougher for them, don't you think?
I wonder about and I question the effect of a wholesome family on kids.. for sure, a lot of literature have already talked much about it..
In an age where divorce rate is climbing and it is a reality that it is harder to hold a marriage together than to let it fall apart, it seems very fatalistic to me when results are attributed merely to the status of the family.
You will think that if we have evolved so much – that the broken families and people will have evolved to cope with the broken family status and its effects on kids. Are all the psychologists and sociologists not having a field day trying to analyse this and coming up with solutions, if we already see divorce as a upward trend that will likely stay than to go away?
Hence, if there are coping mechanisms in place (definitely there must be! Divorce is not invented a decade ago!) then, I am saying there is something besides the status of broken family that may have impacted the kids more..
Is it the income, is it the vices of the parents, or is it simply the lack of attention?
If it is any of such parameters, then they are not automatically correlated to broken families, i.e. a kid can come from a full family where parents are of lower income, or are victims of vices such as excessive gambling or alcoholism or as simple as coming from a full but negligent family!
Hence, in this age where divorce is a reality that many have to cope with, I think it is very stigma-tic to continue attributing failures to status of the family. It is not fair, and it is not realistic.
And it is not helpful in helping the public see the REAL ROOT of the problem that may have resulted in the tragedy, which may turn out to be an even more prevalent trait/ situation! One day, I hope to see a change, and more insightful reporting. Please, to me, it seems really passé to attribute failures/ tragedies/ any weaknesses of kids to simply, and linearly, the cause of broken families.
Just because we are pro-family, should not make us BLIND to persevering, loving and capable single parents who strive to bring up their kids well and wholesomely.
If anything, these individual deserve more credit as it is much tougher for them, don't you think?
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