Those who have been to hubby's blog will have seen a sneak preview of the 2 boys together.. that video seriously will also have a serious contender for one of the best shot videos this year..
But I have been asked this question so often (I have lost count, but hey, if you have not asked me that question, maybe you are the only one? haks!), I feel compelled to blog it down..
From the moment En was introduced to Xuan, he seems very pleased with Xuan (dunno whether its the way Xuan looks or its the fancy toy blocks which we bought him - as a token of gift from Baby Xuan..)En also picked up the term 第第 very fast, and when Xuan came home, En will often seek Xuan out by dragging daddy or our helper into the room to see 第第.
En also displays his affection for his brother by hugging his brother (laying his side of his head by his brother)... and i was very touched one day when I witnessed the folllowing:
En came into our room one night making a sudden ruckus, and startling Baby Xuan from his sleep.. and so Xuan was wailing and crying away.. En stopped what he was doing, seemingly shocked by the wails too... So we brought him to see me cradling Xuan, and En actually reached out his tiny fingers to touch Xuan, and then hugging Xuan as he laid his head gently on Xuan, as if to pacify him when we asked him to hug baby.. such a sweet gesture!
I agree when a fren remarked that the responsibility of making sure the siblings get along lie with the parents.. it is indeed our responsibility to ensure objectivity and fairness to both kids, to provide adequate attention for both so they wont' have to fight for our attention.. and not to ever pit one kid against another..
So far, En and Xuan seemed rather different, so I react to them differently too.. En excites and stimulates me with his funny antics and ingenuity, he takes up a lot of our energy engaging him in play and fun.. he is also getting a lot more mischievous as he is easily picking up the bad habits along with his cute antics.. so we also spend a lot of energy disciplining him and keeping him in line, and doing it with care so that we do not stifle or jeopardize his creativity and high spirited-ness..Xuan so far seems a contrast to En even at that tender age, En was a very challenging baby from the start, even Ling Jie (confinement lady) remarked back then that En was a very "fierce and impatient" baby.. Thus far, Xuan has been less demanding.. and very sweet, although he does not have that immediately "cute" look often associated with En, his sweetness comes through in his frequent smiles, yes, even at 1 weeks, he started smiling quite often, displaying his tiny dimples.. and I love him a lot for his subtle and quiet sweet ways..
I think each parent loves his child/ children in different ways, as per the child's personality..but that does not mean the parent is not fair.. it is all part of the greater human exchange, that's all...
Hubby once told me that there are now 2 more persons in the family sharing his love, but cuz I think we love each person in a different way, sharing does not seem to be the right concept because the source of love is different, don't you think?
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